Drama.
A lot has been happening lately. As at last blog, i had fallen in love and was all giggly and gushy..Now i have even bigger news. He liked. He put a ring on it. And, i moved in..yes, ladies and gentlemen, am cohabiting. living in sin. I have a room mate who happens to be my lover and fiance..actually, we consider ourselves married..we're just awaiting for the attorney general to agree with us.
There are a few things i have learnt in the past 4 weeks of cohabiting (a word my hubby really hates).
dont tell your parents just yet: No matter how liberal you may think they are. I think ever parent would like to see their child walk down the aisle. Especially their daughters, in broad daylight (as Kenyan law stipulates) and have some man make an honest woman out of them.
Women have so much work: : as you dear readers are aware, i hold a full time job as a business manager, i suffer from lupus and am trying to forge a new career as an events planner (actually no one is aware of that - sometimes i wonder whether I am). Now that's enough work for any woman, but try moving in with a man and suddenly you have chores. Any self-respecting African woman is expected to cook for her husband and keep the home running...mostly, all by yourself..and now with all the accompanying lupus fatigue, i seem to be in a perpetual state of tiredness. I sometimes describe it as having an out of body experience..To add to all that, i moved further out of town to a part of town that needs a daily 2hr commute to the city. I sometimes just miss my bachelorette pad! This better be the greatest love of my life.
Love is not everything, but it really helps: Enough said.
Have many towels and plenty of socks: Nairobi has been plagued by bad weather for the past two weeks and that means the clothes are not drying on the line..you hang them when it absolutely beautiful and sunny, it starts drizzling after precisely 10 minutes (must be global warming) and voila..you're back to square one. And any early morning cries of "honey, have you seen my socks?"will be bound to fill you with dread.
Always draw up a budget: Now while this is essential for all civilised beings, it gets more essential when two parties are trying to navigate the murky marital waters..and if by any chance you thought that it would cost you the same amount as it previously did to live a comfortable life, think again.
Have fun: Life is short, and if you're among the lucky few who find the love of their life and decide to live in sin with them, enjoy the experience.
I will be updating any further insights that i happen to be privy to..for now, wish me luck.
There are a few things i have learnt in the past 4 weeks of cohabiting (a word my hubby really hates).
dont tell your parents just yet: No matter how liberal you may think they are. I think ever parent would like to see their child walk down the aisle. Especially their daughters, in broad daylight (as Kenyan law stipulates) and have some man make an honest woman out of them.
Women have so much work: : as you dear readers are aware, i hold a full time job as a business manager, i suffer from lupus and am trying to forge a new career as an events planner (actually no one is aware of that - sometimes i wonder whether I am). Now that's enough work for any woman, but try moving in with a man and suddenly you have chores. Any self-respecting African woman is expected to cook for her husband and keep the home running...mostly, all by yourself..and now with all the accompanying lupus fatigue, i seem to be in a perpetual state of tiredness. I sometimes describe it as having an out of body experience..To add to all that, i moved further out of town to a part of town that needs a daily 2hr commute to the city. I sometimes just miss my bachelorette pad! This better be the greatest love of my life.
Love is not everything, but it really helps: Enough said.
Have many towels and plenty of socks: Nairobi has been plagued by bad weather for the past two weeks and that means the clothes are not drying on the line..you hang them when it absolutely beautiful and sunny, it starts drizzling after precisely 10 minutes (must be global warming) and voila..you're back to square one. And any early morning cries of "honey, have you seen my socks?"will be bound to fill you with dread.
Always draw up a budget: Now while this is essential for all civilised beings, it gets more essential when two parties are trying to navigate the murky marital waters..and if by any chance you thought that it would cost you the same amount as it previously did to live a comfortable life, think again.
Have fun: Life is short, and if you're among the lucky few who find the love of their life and decide to live in sin with them, enjoy the experience.
I will be updating any further insights that i happen to be privy to..for now, wish me luck.
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